The Hypocrisy of Josh Duggar

The Family Research Council is a conservative lobbying group in D.C. whose mission is “to champion marriage and family as the foundation of civilization, the seedbed of virtue, and the wellspring of society.” This week, it was revealed that Josh Duggar, the Pillsbury Dough Boy come-to-life former Executive Director of the FRC, cheated on his wife and had a paid account on Ashley Madison, website for connecting hussies with cheaters. There is also evidence that he had an account on OK Cupid.

Duggar’s Ashley Madison account was rather mundane and full of the sort of contradictions you might expect from a man obviously full of pent-up sexual frustration. I did find it interesting that he listed “Experimenting with Sex Toys” as a turn-on. Something about the idea of him being pegged by a dominatrix with a strap-on intrigues me, but that’s another story for another time.

Anyhoo…

Within 24 hours, he had issued an apology, which began:

I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife…

I need him and others like him (I see you, Kirk Franklin) to stop blaming porn for their hypocrisy. He didn’t cheat on his wife because he watched porn; that is reductive reasoning. No, either he watched porn and asked his wife to do all the normal sexual activities that human beings do freaky shit he saw and she said no, OR, he asked her, she did it once, and freaked all the way out, OR, he was too chicken shit to even ask her. Either way, his cheating was due to his personal failings and/or the nature of the woman he married.

I am also annoyed by this concept of porn as an addiction. This is not because I do not believe that one can be addicted to porn, but because porn addiction, in this context, is just another way to avoid taking personal responsibility for one’s actions. Josh Duggar did not say he cheated because his marriage was sexually unfulfilling, or because he just enjoyed having sex with random women. No, he blamed it on an addiction, because society has sympathy for addicts. I have no sympathy for Josh Duggar. These are the facts…

Josh Duggar touched his own sisters (and at least one other girl) inappropriately. He acknowledged hurting family and close friends, but did not address the injury to the victims directly. He went to some bullshit religious counseling and never received professional treatment. His parents rearranged the house to physically separate Josh Duggar from his sisters (trust in the Lord, but just in case…).

While championing marriage and family as the foundation of civilization, the seedbed of virtue, and the wellspring of society, Josh Duggar cheated on his wife. He had two separate Ashley Madison accounts, at least one of which remained active until the scandal broke about his inappropriate touching. He was dumb enough to pay for an “Affair Guarantee” and used his real name and address on his profile.

Everything else is bullshit. #GURLBYE

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